Defining Moments is a memoir containing 24 episodes strung together, in a unifying theme. The purpose of a memoir is to capture certain highlights or meaningful moments in one s past and according to Gore Vidal, a memoir is how one remembers one s own life . This book does exactly that and is also a delightful read. The book is peppered with endearing characters, especially so Mansukha, Pyare Mian, and of course Mother for whom Eton could have been a pile of bricks . Worried about her son being beaten by Mansukha she fears he will come home one day on a stretcher . Defining Moments then shifts to Mayo where the characters are equally quixotic. The author , perhaps one of the last commoners to obtain access through a prince s sponsorship, initially feels like a fish out of the sea as he has no title to prefix or suffix to go with his name.